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Being Single: The Good and Bad Side October 1, 2008

Filed under: Romance — Ryann Hayman @ 3:54 pm
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Written by  The Fly Guy

I’ve spent a lot of time admitting all of the stupid things I’ve done that have left me single. But today, even if it’s only for a day, I will stand up and be proud of my singleness.

Here are my favorite things about being single:

It’s cheap. Sadly, I don’t have enough money to even go on that many dates in this city. For example, my good friend goes out to dinner every week and has also been on a few vacations this past summer with his girlfriend. That has got to add up to at least $5,000 that I don’t have.

TV Control. I am so set in my TV viewing: Sports, History Channel, Discovery Channel, stupid ’80’s anything, and so on. If some girl came over all the time and attempted to commandeer the remote (and if she was sweet and cute I’d have to give in), I’d be pretty sad.

No Responsibility. I am not required to be anywhere on behalf of a girl. Again, my friend who goes out to dinner every week? He had a calendar he kept with his girlfriend all summer of the activities they did together. I don’t have to keep an organized schedule or pick up some girl’s parents at the airport, or sit through the sister’s boring musical.

My Head is allowed to be on a swivel.
I can go out and talk to any girl I want. I’m still enjoying “playing the field” and meeting lots of girls. Nothing ever works out, but oh well.

No Structure. Luckily I don’t have girls coming over on a consistent basis, so I don’t have to keep my apartment in tip top shape or even comb my hair.

Having hope and the thrill of the chase. It’s exhilarating to have hope in eventually dating after I meet a cool girl and it’s fun to give it a shot and chase, whether I fail or succeed.

Self improvement. One of the best things you can do while you’re single-even if you’re unhappily single-is work on yourself. You can try new things, go new places, develop talents and network and try to grow professionally. When you are in a partnership with someone else, you can still improve, but it’s not so easy to focus on yourself 110%.

Well, I couldn’t let this go without saying some bad things about being single. Here you go:

I’m still without a clue.
It would be nice to have someone there who was actually good little things I suck at: getting my collar to stay down, keeping my clothes unwrinkled, managing my money, decorating the apartment…whoa I suck at a lot of stuff!

Slow Dances At Weddings.
I am always the single guy among my friends at a wedding. When those slow songs kick in, and everyone couples off, I have no one. So I go hide (and drown my sorrows) at the bar.

Holidays. Yes, I get all caught up in the holidays. It gets chilly, people get happy and I want someone to be close to. The holidays in NYC are very romantic. Not to mention, at this point, my family probably thinks I’m gay because I never bring any girls home for the holidays.

Down Time. I know I harp on how I love controlling my own time and having no responsibility but once in a while it would be nice to know that someone is always there if I want to spend some down time with them.

Creative dating.
I love thinking of fun things to do and cool places to visit with a girl. There are so many interesting things that are made more fun with a girl…from camping to cooking. Sometimes it’s just nice to have someone to make happy.

Someone to hold. It’s more fun watching a scary movie with a special girl. I love listening to storms and rain outside, but it would be even better with a girl I was really into.

The bottom line is that there is green grass on either side of the single or not single fence. My friends with girlfriends and wives are jealous of my freedom, and I’m jealous of their great relationships. The key to remaining happy whether you’re single or not is to celebrate the great things about being single or not single. And, try to be happy no matter what situation you’re in because chances are you’ll be on the other side of the fence at some point.

What would you say are your favorite and least favorite things about single life?


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