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Letting Go Of The Past December 22, 2008

Filed under: Romance — Ryann Hayman @ 10:53 am


It’s amazing how easy it is for us to point out the faults in others. And judging from the progression of yesterday’s discussion, I think we all (or at least some of us) secretly find pleasure in lashing out at people from our past. But what if the tables were turned? And what if someone began to point out all of the times when you were the cause of your relationship’s demise?

Now for those who say, “It has never been my fault,” well that’s not exactly true. Since we all fall well short of perfection, there has to be at least one moment (or maybe two or three moments) where you have actively contributed to the downfall of your relationship. It may not have been intentional, but in some way, you were guilty of doing more harm than good.

These are the types of discussions that we don’t like to have. Even in my own life, it was always much easier for me to believe that every time a relationship didn’t work out, it was because of some fatal flaw in the other person. It was also easier for me to believe that I was just an innocent bystander who always seemed to have bad luck when choosing a mate. I’ve since wised up.

What am I trying to say to you today?

Well for starters, I’m trying to say that if you have managed to subconsciously forgive yourself for the wrongs that you have committed, then why is it so hard for you to extend that same type of compassion? We all fall down; we all make mistakes; and we all end up placing ourselves in situations that should have been avoided. But that’s what life is all about: it’s just a series of choices, and sometimes we unfortunately make the wrong one.

So extend some forgiveness today to someone in your past. Forgive them for the poor choices that they made, and let go of that hardness and frustration that you are currently harboring in your heart. Then once you do that, pass this on to a friend or coworker, and encourage them to do the same. Who knows what can happen. Maybe in time, this will circle back around, and someone will forgive you for your mistakes.

Just think about it.


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