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4 Tips When Asking A Guy Out On A Date November 25, 2008

Filed under: Romance — Ryann Hayman @ 2:18 pm
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So here’s the scenario. There is this guy that you’ve had your eye on for quite some time. You think he’s interested in you, but he’s yet to make any serious move. So what should you do?

Here’s my advice: take matters into your own hands. Now more than ever, women are beginning to take some serious initiative when it comes to their dating lives. When you think about it, there’s actually nothing wrong with actively pursuing Mr. Right; you just have to know the right way to do it. That’s why I’ve decided to share with you 4 Tips When Asking A Guy Out On A Date.

1. Speak your mind.

Men aren’t mind readers. And to be quite honest with you, we can be quite oblivious to the subtle hints that women like to consistently drop. So instead of assuming that he knows what you’re getting at when you tell him that he looks nice wearing earth tones, you should just come out and say that you’re interested. It will save a lot of frustration on your part…especially when he replies, “Thank you. So what’s an earth tone?”

2. Go in through the backdoor.

If you’re not brave enough to go with the all-out frontal assault, there’s another way to make your interest known. You should get a friend to casually bring it up to him by saying something like, “Hey, my friend thinks you’re kind of cute.”

I know what you’re probably thinking. “Fly Guy, that’s sounds kind of childish.” And you may be right. But ask yourself this. Do you still get excited when you flip past an old episode of The Smurfs, The Gummy Bears, The Snorkels or any other childhood cartoon that you used to love? I thought so. You see, no matter how old we get, we all still secretly hold on to some of those childhood indulgences that made love fun and innocent. So give it a shot and see where it goes.

3. Present a solid plan.

What most women fail to realize is that the same things that work on you, will more often than not work on us as well. So instead of proposing some hypothetical get together without any real details, come to the table with a solid plan. Try something like this:

“Hey, what are you doing this Friday night at 8pm? I have two tickets to the New Kids On the Block Reunion Concert, and I’d love for you to come with me.”

Easy enough right? (Okay, maybe not the concert part, but you see where I’m going with this one.) Having a well thought out plan makes it that much easier for us to say yes.

4. Don’t overdo it.

The final tip that I’ll leave with you is to avoid coming on too strong. While we appreciate a woman able to speak her mind and express her interest, there are still limits to the amount of aggressiveness that we prefer. (It’s not really fair how society has defined our roles is it?)

As men, we are encouraged to be bold and borderline arrogant when pursuing you. But as a woman, you’re not given that same freedom. In fact, when it comes to dating, women have a far tougher job than even Michael Jackson’s personal trainer…

“Listen Mike, I know you feel kind of weak, but can you at least do one push up for me?………Not even one? Well can you at least say push up, so you can get a mental work out? No…okay, we’ll try again tomorrow.”

My Michael Jackson joke aside, here’s a solution that helps establish a happy medium. Smile and use gentle tones while asking him out. This allows you to be aggressive, while still maintaining your non-threatening posture.

The Fly Question of the Day:
In your opinion, is there’s anything wrong with a woman asking a man out on a date? What are your experiences with today’s topic?

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